Parenting While having a head injury
Parenting while dealing with a concussion can feel like trying to juggle flaming torches while riding a unicycle on a tightrope strung over a pit of hungry alligators. It’s a wild metaphor, but when your head is pounding, any added chaos from your little ones can send you teetering off balance.
Know Your Limitations: First and foremost, it's crucial to listen to your body. Rest is your best friend, even when the toddler needs a snack or the baby demands a diaper change. Delegate tasks where possible. Don’t hesitate to lean on your partner or family for support—swapping babysitting duties or having someone take the kids out for a few hours can provide you with much-needed downtime. Try and modify your tasks to one position height, reducing the postural dizziness that can come.
High Chair with straps and toys within reach is my go-to safe space for my toddler!
Safe Play: Create a safe space for your kids that requires minimal supervision. Stock it with toys that can entertain them for a while and ensure it's free of any dangerous hazards. This didn’t come from nowhere; a head injury can dampen your alertness and reaction time, so creating a secure environment will help ease your mind while you focus on healing. Not to mention, toys can go flying from time to time, so make sure you keep a healthy distance or manage play scenario preferably below the level of your head. Don’t get into any funky positions!
New Routine: Find a routine that works for your current state. Routines are like the holy grail in parenthood, but when you’re not 100%, adjust accordingly. Keep activities low-key—art projects, storytime, or quiet games can keep everyone engaged without draining all your energy.
Play some low-stimulating music in the background to add to the coloring mood.
Talk About It: Communication is key! Explain to older siblings (when possible) why you may need their help or why you can’t play the same way right now. Kids are more understanding than we give them credit for, and involving them can make them feel proud and responsible. Why not open up a little doctor’s office for some role play? Teach them about opposites like loud/ quiet or soft/hard, even various body parts.
Self-Care: Remember to throw in some self-care whenever you can, even if it's just leaning back and listening to your favourite tunes while the kids are occupied. Enlist their help, if appropriate, to create a calm environment—tuning into soft music can create a stress-free vibe that benefits everyone.
Get your kiddos to play “spa” with you and play soothing music or have them serve you with your partner’s help!
Self-love: Above all, be kind to yourself. You’re traversing a challenging road while trying to keep tiny humans alive, and that’s no small feat. You’ve got this, even if some days feel like you’re wandering through a foggy haze. Just take it one step at a time, and build that community around you—mama friends, online groups, anyone who understands the dual challenge of parenting and healing. You’re not alone in this.
